Alright here it goes my friend:
First, conjure a mental birds-eye view of your country. See those little glowing dots scattered everywhere? Those are your potential soul mates; those whom you are compatible with if only you could walk by them one day or met them. Alright, now zoom out even more. More dots. And zoom out all the way now—over a hundred dots.
See, I don’t believe in ‘one true soulmate.’ There are countless people whom we are compatible with and who are meant for us, but sometimes things don’t work out, and there’s usually a good reason for it. The sooner you come to terms with the break and up and move on, the closer you are to meeting all those other guys until you find your perfect ‘glowing dot’ on the map of your life.
There’s no manual or step-by-step directions for getting over someone. No amount of chocolate, ice cream, and sappy romantic movie combination will do much. The best thing to do is to sit down, and just think about your relationship. Never regret a single thing about a relationship, and never push your emotions away. This guy was your first love; I bet he is amazing, caring, handsome, kind, and so much more. But something went wrong—there’s a reason you two just weren’t compatible enough. However, appreciate him and the relationship. He taught you how to love, and he and set the standards pretty high for your next guy. He entered your life for a reason, and while his positive impact wasn’t everlasting, he contributed something important to you. He has affected your character, your mindset. There’s a reason you were with him, and now there’s a reason you’re not.
You will find someone else who will make you feel the same, but this time even better. You will look for someone with the qualities he had, but this time you will also be looking for the qualities he lacked and that you needed.
Your potential soulmate is somewhere on this interconnected map of life. Time will heal you; no matter what humans go through, no matter how devastating, time heals pain or at least alleviates it.
Focus on yourself for now; learn to be alone and love it. Find pleasure in simple things—hang out with your friends more, hang out alone, hang out with your siblings. For now, there’s no need to think about relationships; this is your healing process.